Myths Associated with Emotions: A Specific Situation, Time, or Expression
A line which we have often heard is “you are too emotional,” and this has a lot of negative connotations associated with it. A person with feelings and emotions is considered to be weak, although Homo sapiens are emotional beings. Do you think humanity exists without emotions? We feel like crying, but we hold on, thinking about what the world would say. That emotion is controlled, not that thought; it keeps on coming back in some form or the other because it is not healed, and this creates what one very casually uses but is not that simple: “trauma.”
Words and feelings like empathy would not even exist if you did not have emotions; how would you understand others? Further, many times we are too sad, but we try to show the world that we are happy because we feel this is not the right time. But trust me, if you feel sad, feel it, because once it is released, you will come back to happiness. Don’t worry.
A funny thought comes that this means we can be sad all the time… isn’t it? No, dear reader, I am not talking about a specific emotion but about all of them. If you feel angry, release it. Maybe you can change the form of it; instead of people, paper would be a better option. The same goes for crying, maybe confined to your friend’s arms, or if you feel they would judge you, again, paper never would. It’s okay to feel what you are feeling. It’s okay if you don’t like certain situations. It’s okay to be who you are. There are no right or wrong emotions; they are subjective. When people are laughing at someone and you don’t, that makes your emotions unique indeed.
In a particular instance when you feel sad or bad about something, it’s alright if you confront it because your emotions do matter. People may judge you; a common saying is “itni si baat par naraz ho gayi.” Let it be. Their emotions cannot be sorted, but yours can be. What you can control is your emotions, not others’. Pain is an intense emotion; you can feel that too. What you just need to do is stop categorising emotions as good or bad, positive or negative. These binaries are self-made. To some, crying may be relaxation and thus positive, and others may consider it negative. Accept what you want to, and remember that nothing stays for long. Trauma will leave you once you accept your emotions; they will leave sometime or the other. Let them don’t stop them. You have a roller coaster ride, right? It finally comes to acceptance and reaches the same point after different stages.
But if you are not able to express yourself, you are not someone different because there are many of us. It’s okay; emotions do need time. It is not that one fine day you feel like saying, “Hey emotions, how are you doing?” and they would pop out like popcorn.
Dear readers, it’s simple. Give yourself time. They are your emotions, and handle them with exceptional care. Don’t force them. It is okay; they give you space, they give you time, and they give you life.
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