The Mental Compass

Written By : Ms. Feby Baiju, Assistant Professor, PG Department of Psychology, Marudhar Kesari Jain College for Women, Vaniyambadi Emotional Intelligence (EI), the ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions, is a cornerstone concept in modern psychology. Popularized by Daniel Goleman, EI shifts the focus beyond traditional intelligence metrics like IQ, highlighting the critical role of emotional awareness and interpersonal skills.  Emotional Intelligence (EI) encompasses five essential components: self-awareness, which involves recognizing and understanding one’s emotions and their impact; self-regulation, the ability to control emotions and adapt effectively to changing situations; motivation, which channels emotions toward achieving goals; empathy, the capacity to understand and connect with the feelings of others; and social skills, essential for building and nurturing meaningful relationships.  Unlike IQ, which tends to be relatively static, EI can be developed ...

“Kids these days don’t want to work.” It’s a sentence almost every generation has heard about the next one. Today, that spotlight is on Gen Z. Recent conversations around workplaces have become increasingly harsh toward young employees. Companies claim fresh graduates lack professionalism, motivation, communication skills, and workplace etiquette. Reports of Gen Z employees being fired within months of joining have fueled a larger narrative: that this generation simply isn’t “work-ready.” But is the issue really that simple? Because behind every headline about an “unprofessional Gen Z employee” is often a young adult entering one of the most uncertain economic and emotional periods in recent history. Gen Z entered adulthood during a pandemic. Many attended college through screens, built friendships online, and started internships remotely. For a large number of them, the workplace wasn’t something they slowly adapted to through campus culture, networking events, or office exposure. It...

For as long as people have existed, there has been a quiet understanding that no one really questioned: you don’t choose how you begin. You are born into a body, into a set of traits, into strengths and weaknesses that are already there before you even take your first breath. Some people are born healthy; some are not. Some carry risks they don’t even know about yet. And for most of history, this was simply accepted. People didn’t have another option. They lived with it, adjusted to it, and slowly built their lives around whatever they were given. It wasn’t always fair, but it felt natural. It felt like life was something you go through, not something you design. Through science, something that once felt completely fixed is becoming something we can actually work with. DNA is no longer just this mysterious thing hidden inside the body. Scientists can now read it, understand parts of it, and in some cases, change it. Tools like CRISPR allow researchers to go into the genetic code, find ...

There are many behaviors associated with the healing culture we see today. There is a current prevailing expectation that every experience we have in life needs to be unpacked, analyzed, and turned into teaching or insight. Social media provides personal growth threads, and therapy sessions strongly encourage us to produce insight from self-reflection. The message from society is to Mean-Make, but the pressure to obtain some lesson from every moment of our lives can lead us to experience a new form of mental exhaustion that could be labeled Narrative Burnout. We are living through a period where vulnerability and storytelling of personal experiences have provided us with the means to connect with others and the ability to heal through that connection. This is a positive cultural shift helping to dismantle counterproductive views of mental health and emotional expression. However, at times, this cultural shift tiptoes into the territory of Too Much Expected. The underlying belief is tha...

This article revisits the timeless film Up and explores why this animated story continues to move audiences across generations. Although it appears simple on the surface with bright visuals and gentle humor, the film carries a deep emotional weight that speaks to themes of grief, love, companionship and the courage to begin again.  The journey of Carl Fredricksen is more than an adventure. It is a reflection of the human struggle to hold on to memories while learning how to move forward. The movie remains one of the rare works that balances childlike imagination with emotional honesty. The story begins with one of the most memorable sequences in modern animation. Without any dialogue, the film shows the entire life Carl shared with his wife Ellie. This sequence reveals love in its purest form.  Their dreams, disappointments and moments of joy unfold silently yet powerfully. The audience watches them hope for adventure, face financial struggles, and accept the limits life place...

There is a thin line between caring for someone and protecting them so much that they slowly stop believing they can handle life on their own. Most people do not cross this line intentionally. In fact, it often comes from love. A parent who does not want their child to struggle the way they did. A partner who wants to “fix” every inconvenience for the other person. A friend who constantly shields someone from disappointment. It feels nurturing at first. Warm. Safe. Protective. But over time, too much protection can quietly limit emotional growth. This is where the idea of mollycoddling enters the conversation. What Does Mollycoddling Mean? Mollycoddling refers to treating someone with excessive care, overprotection, or indulgence to the point where it prevents them from becoming emotionally resilient or independent. In psychology and behavioral discussions, this concept is often linked to overparenting, emotional dependency, and learned helplessness. The theory behind mollycoddling sug...

You’ve ever watched an animal for more than a few minutes, not just glanced at it, but actually paid attention, and you start to notice something subtle. It doesn’t feel as simple as we usually assume. At first, everything looks predictable. A dog waits near the gate when it hears a bike. A crow lands near the same spot every day. A stray cat slowly figures out which people are safe. It’s easy to say, “That’s just instinct,” but the longer you watch, the less that explanation feels complete because the behavior isn’t exactly the same every time. It shifts. It adjusts. It reacts differently depending on what just happened, and that’s where it gets interesting. Animals don’t start from zero. They’re born with certain built-in tendencies. A bird doesn’t need lessons to start building a nest. A predator doesn’t need to be taught to chase movement. That part is already there, but what happens after that isn’t fixed. The environment starts shaping everything. And most of that shaping happens...

There comes a point in many people’s lives when they realise that love, loyalty, and effort are not always enough to sustain every relationship. Sometimes, despite trying to explain yourself better, be more patient, or give people endless chances, you still end up feeling emotionally exhausted around them. That is where the quote, “If you can’t change the people around you, change the people around you,” begins to hit differently. At first glance, the quote sounds harsh. It can feel selfish or even cold. We are often taught to adjust, compromise, and “stick by people no matter what.” But psychology tells us something equally important: the environment we emotionally live in shapes our mental health more than we realise. Human beings are deeply social creatures. The people around us influence our self-esteem, stress levels, motivation, habits, emotional regulation, and even the way we see ourselves. Think about the difference between walking into a room where you constantly feel judged ...

How trauma, attachment, and silence shape a child’s world — and why safety must come first. By: Gurneet Kaur Jaitly, Counselling Psychologist Why This Conversation Matters In my years of working with children and families, I have learned that trauma often enters quietly.  In many Indian families, values such as respect, unity, discipline, and social reputation are deeply important. These strengths hold families together. However, when abuse occurs within a family system, silence may unintentionally delay protection. The impact extends beyond the incident itself. It affects trust, attachment, emotional development, and the child’s sense of safety.Children may feel pressure to maintain family izzat( honor), avoid conflict, or stay quiet. As parents, understanding this dynamic is essential for prevention and protection. What Is a Betrayal Bond? A betrayal bond forms when a child becomes emotionally attached to someone who is also causing harm. This can happen when the abuser is a fami...