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Why Small Problems Shouldn’t Be Ignored: Exploring the Broken Windows Theory

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Have you ever walked past a cracked pavement that was never repaired, a streetlight that stopped working months ago, or a pile of litter that seems to grow a little larger every day? Most of us barely notice these things. They appear insignificant in the grand scheme of life. Yet, what if these small signs of neglect were silently shaping the way people behave? What if the little things we ignore today create bigger problems tomorrow? This idea is at the heart of the Broken Windows Theory, a concept that extends far beyond crime and public spaces. It offers an interesting lens through which we can understand our homes, workplaces, relationships, and even our mental well-being. Understanding the Broken Windows Theory The Broken Windows Theory was introduced in 1982 by social scientists James Q. Wilson and George L. Kelling. The theory suggests that visible signs of disorder and neglect, such as a broken window, graffiti, litter, or vandalism, can encourage further disorder if left unad...
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Fatherhood Then and Now: How Parenting Has Changed

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From Providers to Partners: The Evolution of Modern Fatherhood Written By Gurneet Kaur Jaitly Counselling Psychologist | Educator | Parenting & Mental Health Advocate “My father rarely said, ‘I love you.’ Yet, I never doubted that he did.” For many of us, this sentence captures the essence of fatherhood growing up. Love was not always spoken. It was packed into school lunches, long commutes to work, repaired bicycles, paid tuition fees, and countless sacrifices that often went unnoticed. Today, fatherhood looks different. Fathers are changing diapers, attending parent-teacher meetings, discussing emotions with their children, and becoming active participants in everyday family life. But while parenting has evolved, one thing remains unchanged—the profound influence fathers have on the emotional well-being of their children. As a counselling psychologist, I have witnessed how the role of fathers has transformed across generations, bringing both opportunities and challenges for famil...
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Healing Trauma to Foster Secure, Loving, and Authentic Relationships

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Love is often imagined as natural, effortless, and healing. Yet, for many people, loving and being loved can feel confusing, frightening, or deeply painful. This is not because they lack the capacity for love, but because past emotional wounds quietly influence how they relate to others. Trauma does not stay in the past; it shapes expectations, emotional reactions, and patterns of connection. Understanding how trauma affects love is an essential step toward building healthier and more secure relationships. Emotional Wounds and Attachment Patterns Early relationships, especially those with caregivers, lay the foundation for how we experience closeness later in life. When these early bonds are marked by neglect, inconsistency, criticism, or abuse, the nervous system learns that connection may not be safe or reliable. As adults, these early experiences often reappear as attachment patterns. Some individuals develop anxious attachment, where love is associated with fear of abandonment. The...
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The Dual Mind: Conflict Between Rational and Emotional Systems

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There are certain moments that don’t look like anything from the outside, but inside they feel very real. You’re just there maybe sitting, maybe thinking and suddenly something feels slightly off. Not in a bad way, not in a confusing way, just not fully settled. One part of you feels calm, almost certain. It quietly knows what makes sense. It feels steady, like it already understands what should be done. But at the exact same time, another part of you feels something else. It’s quicker, more immediate, harder to ignore. It doesn’t explain itself. It doesn’t need to. It just pulls. And you pause. You don’t decide right away. You don’t move. You just sit in that space for a few seconds, feeling both sides at once. That space is more important than it seems. Because in that moment, you’re not confused. You’re actually aware of something most people move past too quickly. You’re feeling two ways of understanding at the same time. One comes from thought. The other comes from feeling. And th...
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India’s Biggest Economic Challenge: Skill Deficit or Distraction Crisis?

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India is often described as a young nation with immense potential. More than half of its population is under the age of 30, and every year millions of young people enter colleges, training institutes, and the workforce. On paper, this demographic advantage should be one of the country’s greatest strengths. Yet, despite economic growth, technological advancements, and expanding opportunities, many employers continue to report difficulties finding job-ready candidates. This has sparked an important debate: Is India’s biggest economic challenge a skill deficit, or are we facing a distraction crisis? At first glance, the answer seems obvious. Many industries report shortages of skilled workers. Employers often speak about graduates who possess degrees but lack practical skills, communication abilities, critical thinking, or problem-solving competencies. This phenomenon is not unique to India, but the scale at which it occurs makes it particularly concerning. However, focusing solely on ski...
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Quiet Echoes - A Heart Ready to Bloom

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Meera was fifty-three when she finally admitted to herself that loneliness inside a marriage felt heavier than loneliness outside it. After thirty years of smiling through silences that cut deeper than words, she walked out, not because she wanted freedom, but because she wanted peace. The world whispered that starting over at her age was foolish, but she was tired of shrinking herself to fit into a life that no longer felt like hers. Healing came slowly, like sunlight leaking through curtains after a long night. She learned to eat alone without feeling abandoned. She learned that choosing herself was not selfishness but survival. And she learned to sit with grief without letting it define her. On a rainy Tuesday, at a community library class she joined just to feel less invisible, she met Arvind, a quiet man with kind eyes and a history full of bruised edges. He, too, carried a past that had taught him love could be conditional and companionship could turn into captivity. They spoke l...
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Moving Beyond Awareness: Embracing Neurodiversity and Inclusion in India

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Written By : Dr. Vamshi Krishna Arumbaka, Positive Psychologist and TedX Speaker, Hyderabad In the posh conference room of a sleek IT park in Hyderabad’s HITEC City, Anika Rao sat perfectly still, her fingers gently tapping against the underside of the table where no one could see. It was April 2026—Autism Awareness Month, and the irony was visible.  Around the table, her team from a global software firm chatted loudly about weekend plans and cricket scores, their voices overlapping in the easy rhythm of small talk. Anika smiled at the right moments, nodded, mirrored their high energy. She had perfected this script over years of masking, the exhausting art of appearing neurotypical so colleagues wouldn’t label her “difficult” or “not a team player.” By the time the stand-up meeting ended, her temples throbbed and her jaw ached. That evening, back in her family’s apartment in Kondapur, with the ceiling fan whirring and the pressure cooker whistling from the kitchen, Anika finally le...
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How We Reason: The Psychology Behind Everyday Decisions

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Imagine this scenario: You are on an e-commerce website, comparing two similar products, a pair of headphones. One of them is advertised as “best seller,” which means that it appears in first place on the webpage and gets a slightly better rating than the second model. However, the latter model is cheaper and offers nearly the same features as the “best seller.” After spending a few moments scanning through these models, you decide to choose the “best seller” option, which seems logical and justified. In fact, this situation represents a typical decision-making practice that people face in their daily lives. Reasoning is one of the important processes during decision-making, which implies making conclusions based on available information. Deductive reasoning involves moving from a general principle to a particular situation. Therefore, if there is a rule stating that higher ratings mean higher quality, one would conclude that buying the best-rated headphones is a logical step. Inductiv...
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Screen, Verdict Film Analysis - Athiran (2019)

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DIRECTOR  : VIVEK CAST : FAHADH FAASIl, SAI PALLAVI, ATUL KULKARNI AND OTHERS "Athiran" is a gripping psychological thriller that delves into the complex realm of mental health, highlighting the importance of awareness, empathy, and accurate diagnosis. The film masterfully portrays the devastating effects of misdiagnosis and the dangers of unethical treatment methods, as seen through Dr. Benjamin’s primitive and harmful approaches. The character of Vinayan, who suffers from schizophrenia, underscores how mental illnesses can be deeply misunderstood and hidden behind layers of delusion and paranoia, emphasizing the need for compassionate, professional intervention rather than exploitation. The narrative also explores the devastating impact of trauma and family secrets on mental health. Nithya’s traumatic past and her subsequent dissociation reflect how unresolved grief and guilt can manifest as psychosis, illustrating the importance of sensitivity and proper psychiatric care. ...
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Benevolence: A Psychiatric Reading of Emperor Ashoka

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Written by : Dr. Jaikumar Velayudham, Consultant Psychiatrist, Chennai and Vellore Dr. Jaikumar Velayudham is a consultant psychiatrist with a deep interest in the intersection of history, psychology, and leadership. Through his writings, he explores the minds of iconic figures to uncover timeless mental health insights. He is a regular contributor to Mental Health Compass Magazine The life of Emperor Ashoka stands as one of history’s most compelling demonstrations of psychological transformation. Few rulers have travelled so dramatically from sanctioned violence to ethical governance. For mental health professionals, Ashoka offers a rare longitudinal case study of moral injury, guilt, post-traumatic growth, and the therapeutic potential of spirituality. Ashoka began his reign as a typical imperial expansionist. Raised in the politically charged Mauryan court under Emperor Bindusara, his early psychological environment was marked by rivalry, insecurity, and ruthless competition. Perso...
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