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The Quiet Work No One Sees: Holding Hearts, One Conversation at a Time

Written By Gurneet Kaur Jaitly, Counselling Psychologist RPS International, Gurgaon The Misunderstood Role “She just sits in a room and talks to kids.” I heard someone say that about me recently. I didn’t react at that moment, but later, it stayed with me. Not because it was harsh, but because it made something deeply meaningful feel—almost invisible. Yes, we do sit in a room and talk to kids. But that room? It is never just a room. It is a place where children bring parts of themselves they don’t show anywhere else. And quietly, it is also a place where we, as counselors, feel deeply too. What That Room Really Holds It’s where a child walks in, sits down, and keeps staring at the floor, as if the words are there somewhere but just won’t come out. And then, very quietly—“I don’t know why I feel like crying all the time.” Not every child who walks into that room has the words for what they feel; sometimes, they are just looking for someone who will sit with them in it. It’s where anothe...

Ever felt why you are feeling emotionally low exactly after watching a reel you just saw? Did you ever feel that the particular content you saw on social media feels more relatable and circulates in your mind in repeat mode? This is all because of emotional inflation, the recent trend influencing us unknowingly. Let us understand what the concept of emotional inflation is, its role, how it impacts us in day-to-day life, and why it is occurring more recently. The change in the intensity of feelings is observed these days. Maybe the slightest thing triggers frustration or anger in you, and these feelings happen faster than ever before. Many others today feel the same way and report that their emotions feel much more intense than they did years past. This trend is known as emotional inflation, and it’s not just some random feeling; it’s part of a much larger trend occurring right now. Basically, emotional inflation can be understood as how deep and how long we carry an emotion....

Evolutionary psychology also theorises that male violence, aggression, and risk-taking can be explained by drives to gain status, win the favour of females, and pass on their genes. Research has indeed suggested that men (as a group) are more violent than women. Studies show that women prioritize relationships over agendas more than men during times of conflict. In one study, women were more likely to be collaborative, while men were more likely to be avoidant. Females have a greater perception, meaning they observe and dissect information with logic and intellect. Male traits are balanced by female traits, which are considered the highest form of intelligence. In the fields of men and masculinities and other gender studies, a distinction is made between biological sex and gender. Sex refers to biological differences between males and females in terms of anatomy, hormones, and other biological characteristics. Gender, on the other hand, refers to the social and cultural norms regarding...

In today’s fast-paced world, many people wear the badge of being “high-functioning” with pride. They work demanding jobs, handle family responsibilities, maintain social lives, and pursue personal goals, all while struggling with stress, anxiety, or even depression. This phenomenon of being high-functioning but unwell is becoming more common, yet it’s rarely discussed openly. It all begins with the mentality of glorifying this latest hustle culture. Let’s dive into what it really means to be high-functioning but unwell, why hustle culture fuels this, and what psychological impacts it has on our well-being. What Does “High-Functioning but Unwell” Mean? High-functioning means a person can maintain daily chores well in work or social settings, even while handling some underlying mental or physical health challenges. They might meet deadlines, attend meetings, take care of their family, and still appear “fine” on the outside. However, this continuous functionality often hides inner struggl...

“Poetry is the spontaneous overflow of powerful feelings: it takes its origin from emotion recollected in tranquillity.” - William Wordsworth Why Poetic Language Feels Different Normal language is something that aims for clarity. We speak words in a cohesive manner, framing them into sentences to inform, explain, or respond. Poetry works differently. It slows language down and demands for us to look at words more closely. Words here are beyond their explicit meaning. A single line can hold several meanings at once. This is why poetry can also feel puzzling, yet deeply moving at the same time. On World Poetry Day, we rediscover how powerful this form of language can be. Neuroscience and linguistics offer an interesting explanation. The brain does not process poetry in the same way it processes ordinary speech. So when we read a poem, multiple regions of the brain become active at once, especially areas related to imagery, emotion, and memory. Unlike everyday conversation, poetry calls f...

When Personal News Becomes Public Narrative For the vast majority of people, events such as separation or divorce are private experiences shared only with close family and friends. However, for famous people, these intensely private moments are usually viewed by a big crowd. When an announcement is made, word spreads quickly via news networks, social networks platforms, and entertainment remarks. What might have been a quiet emotional transition becomes a widely discussed narrative. Celebrities face a unique challenge in these moments. They must process grief, disappointment, or uncertainty while also managing how they appear in public. The announcement of a divorce rarely ends the conversation. Instead it often begins a period of speculation, analysis, and sometimes criticism. Because of this environment, many public figures choose silence as their first response after sharing the news. This silence is not necessarily avoidable. Rather, it is often a deliberate strategy of emotional r...

Imagine this scenario when you’re deep asleep. You are walking through the street to your house. Suddenly, the road turns into a beach, your school teacher appears out of nowhere, and you are trying to catch a train that does not exist. Moments later, you wake up wondering why your mind even created something so strange. That’s how dreams are! They often feel chaotic, disconnected, and sometimes completely random. But psychologists and neuroscientists suggest that these “random” dreams may actually reveal important processes happening inside the brain while we sleep! One explanation comes from extensive research on memory. When we are asleep, particularly during REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, the brain actively processes information collected throughout the day. Memories are reorganized, strengthened, or sometimes discarded. Because the brain is sorting through multiple experiences at once, fragments from different memories combine in unusual ways. A friend’s face, a place from childh...

Every year, as spring arrives in India, families prepare for festivals like Gudi Padwa. All our homes are deep-cleaned, rangoli is drawn at doorways, and a gudi is raised outside houses as a symbol of prosperity and new beginnings. The festival marks the start of the new year in the Marathi calendar. While these practices may seem like simple traditions, they reflect something deeper about human behaviour. Around the world, cultures have always created festivals and rituals to mark time, celebrate milestones, and bring communities together. One of the main reasons humans seem to celebrate is to strengthen social bonds. Festivals create new chances for people to come together, cook, visit relatives, and take part in rituals and practices. These moments allow people to interact and reconnect in ways that everyday life often does not. Singing, dancing, sharing food, and performing rituals together make people feel part of a larger group. When an entire community celebrates the same festiv...

There are moments when emotions don’t arrive gently, they rush in all at once. A single comment turns into a wave of hurt. A small disagreement suddenly feels overwhelming. Your heart races, your thoughts blur, and before you know it, you’ve said something you didn’t fully mean or shut down completely. Later, when everything is quiet again, you sit with that familiar thought: “I wish I had handled that differently.” This experience has a name, emotional flooding. It’s when your feelings become so intense that your body and mind struggle to keep up. Your brain shifts into survival mode. Logic takes a backseat, and your reactions become quicker, louder, or more withdrawn than you intended. It’s not because you’re “too emotional” or “bad at handling things.” It’s because your nervous system is overwhelmed. In those moments, the idea of pausing can feel almost impossible. When emotions surge, everything inside you pushes for immediate action like respond, defend, explain, fix. Silence can ...

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Living with IDIOT Syndrome: The Psychology Behind Trusting Screens Over Specialists

The Quiet Work No One Sees: Holding Hearts, One Conversation at a Time

Understanding and Managing Emotional Inflation in Today’s Digital Age

Warrior Minds, Silent Voices: Why Men Often Confront Conflict While Women Choose Quiet Strategies

High-Functioning but Unwell: Breaking Free from Hustle Culture

When Words Paint Pictures: The Psychology Behind Metaphor and Meaning

Silence After the Announcement: Emotional Regulation in Public Figures

The Science Behind Dreams: How Our Brain Processes While We Sleep

Why Humans Celebrate: The Psychology and Anthropology of Festivals

The Art of Pausing When Emotions Overflow