The Mental Compass

“The trouble is, you think you have time.” – Siddhartha Gautama Buddha What Buddha is really pointing to in this line is how we assume time is always there for us in a steady, predictable way. We tend to believe that moments will unfold normally and that waiting is just a small pause in between. But in reality, time does not feel consistent. It stretches, slows down, or even feels stuck depending on what we are experiencing. Think about waiting for your phone to turn back on after it freezes, or watching a message stay on “delivered” without a reply. In those moments, even a few seconds start to feel unusually long, and your attention keeps going back to the same point again and again. This is where the psychology of waiting begins. Time does not actually change, but our experience of it does because the brain does not measure time like a clock. Instead, it creates a sense of time based on what we are paying attention to. When attention is focused completely on waiting, every passing s...

Sometimes a connection doesn’t build slowly. It just happens. You meet someone, and within a short time, maybe even the same day it feels like something has already formed. The conversation flows easily, there’s a sense of comfort that seems out of place for how little you’ve known each other, and for a moment, it feels like you’ve skipped the usual process of getting to know someone. It feels natural. Almost too natural and because it feels that way, you don’t question it. You just go along with it but if you look at it a little more carefully, that kind of instant bonding isn’t always as simple as it seems. Not because it’s fake, but because it’s often built on things that aren’t fully visible yet. One of the main things happening in these moments is projection. When you don’t know someone well, your mind doesn’t stay empty. It fills in the missing pieces. You take what little you’ve seen their tone, their words, the way they respond—and you start building a picture around it. If you...

DIRECTOR  :  MADHU C. NARAYANAN CAST : FAHADH FAASIl, SOUBIN SHAHIR, AND OTHERS "Kumbalangi Nights" is a poignant exploration of masculinity and mental health set against the backdrop of a small village, offering a nuanced portrayal of men's emotional struggles. The characters, especially Saji and Bobby, represent different facets of male identity—Saji's anger and frustration stemming from familial abandonment and societal expectations, and Bobby's vulnerability and aspirations for love and acceptance.  Saji's anger management issues and his subsequent suicide attempt highlight the destructive impact of untreated emotional trauma, emphasizing the importance of mental health awareness among men who often suppress their feelings due to societal norms. Bobby's journey towards stability, culminating in his marriage, underscores the need for emotional support and self-awareness in overcoming vulnerabilities. The film subtly critiques toxic masculinity, showing ...

Written By : Ms. A. Gayathri Special Educator and Academic Consultant  A. Gayathri is a seasoned education professional and special educator with more than two decades of experience in inclusive education, learning disabilities, counselling, and psychotherapy. She has served as a special educator, NIOS consultant, lecturer, vocational trainer, and educational consultant across reputed schools, universities, and trusts in Tamil Nadu. Her work reflects strong expertise in special education and teacher training. She has been honoured with multiple state and national awards for her outstanding contributions to the field of education. The Open Basic Education (OBE) programme of the National Institute of Open Schooling (NIOS) is a significant national initiative that strongly aligns with the National Education Policy (NEP) 2020, which emphasizes equity, inclusion, flexibility, foundational learning, and lifelong education. OBE ensures that no learner is left behind, irrespective of age, ...

"Moana" is an animated film that beautifully explores themes of self-discovery, resilience, and cultural identity, offering valuable psychological lessons especially relevant to women's mental health. The protagonist, Moana, embarks on a journey of self-awareness, overcoming fears and societal expectations to find her true purpose. This narrative underscores the importance of self-empowerment for women, encouraging them to listen to their inner voice and trust their instincts despite external pressures. In a society where women often face stereotypes and limitations, Moana’s story serves as a reminder that embracing one’s authentic self is essential for mental well-being. The film also highlights the significance of resilience in the face of adversity. Moana encounters numerous challenges like doubt, fear, and physical danger, but her perseverance ultimately leads to growth and success.  For women, resilience is a crucial psychological trait that helps navigate life's...

Imagine sitting at a dining table with six family members. The television is on, someone is scrolling through reels, another is replying to work emails, and a grandparent is quietly eating in silence. Everyone is physically present, yet no one is truly connecting. This scene is becoming increasingly familiar in many Indian households and perhaps explains one of the greatest paradoxes of our time, we are surrounded by people, but many of us have never felt lonelier. A recent global study of 36 countries brought this contradiction into sharp focus, reporting that India ranks second among the world’s loneliest nations. The study found that 58% of Indians experience loneliness, while 34% describe feeling isolated. What makes these findings particularly striking is that this loneliness is largely emotional rather than physical. Many people are not living alone; they are living with family, roommates, colleagues, or neighbours. Yet they still feel unseen, unheard, and emotionally disconnecte...

Written By : Ms. Gurneet Kaur Jaitly, Counselling Psychologist   "You check the weather before stepping outside. But when was the last time you checked the weather inside your mind?" As the first drops of rain hit the ground, we instinctively reach for an umbrella. We know that getting soaked might leave us uncomfortable—or even unwell. But life brings another kind of rain. The kind that arrives after an unexpected failure. The silence after an argument with someone you love. The loneliness hidden behind a smiling photograph. The exhaustion of always being the 'strong one.' The anxiety that whispers, 'What if I can’t handle this?' These are emotional storms. They don't come with thunder or weather alerts, yet they can leave us feeling just as overwhelmed. As a counselling psychologist, I often remind people that mental health is not about avoiding storms. It is about learning how to walk through them without losing yourself. The goal isn't to stop the ...

Written by : Dr. Jaikumar Velayudham, Consultant Psychiatrist, Chennai and Vellore Dr. Jaikumar Velayudham is a consultant psychiatrist with a deep interest in the intersection of history, psychology, and leadership. Through his writings, he explores the minds of iconic figures to uncover timeless mental health insights. He is a regular contributor to Mental Health Compass Magazine Martin Luther King Jr. stands as one of the most powerful voices in history—a leader who reshaped a nation’s conscience and inspired millions around the world. On April 4 1964,He was fatally shot in Memphis, Tenesse by an escaped convict James Earl Ray and was pronounced dead soon after that.on Aug 28 1963 he delivered his famous,”I have a dream “ speech A small excerpt from it runs thus:  “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal." I have a dream that one day on the red...

One day, they’re sharing stories they say they’ve never told anyone before. They’re texting you first, checking in after a long day, making plans for the future, and making you feel like you’ve finally found someone who understands you. Then, almost without warning, something changes. The messages become shorter. The calls become less frequent. The warmth that once felt effortless is replaced by distance. You’re left wondering what happened. If you’ve ever experienced this, you’re not alone. One of the hardest parts isn’t just that someone pulled away, it’s that they did so after getting close. The closeness makes the distance feel louder. It leaves behind unanswered questions that our minds are desperate to solve. Was it something I said? Did I become too much? Were they pretending all along? The truth is, there isn’t always one simple answer. For some people, intimacy is comforting. For others, it’s unfamiliar territory. Growing close to someone means becoming vulnerable, and vulnera...