How Do You Judge Yourself: A Criterion, an Assumption, or a Perspective?

Ahh my lips so red,

That is why i look bad,

To be alone I am sad,

But I like it for myself i am glad,

The redness is rare,

Maybe others need a topic and cant bare,

But I need to be  I,

I am confident and I am what  I want,

So let them taunt,

Because I believe in me,

My lips are now smiling with glee.

Let them mock,

For myself I have rocked.

They won't stop,

So that social judgement needs to be dropped

Human beings have a tendency to judge people, isn't it? We often judge people based on their weight, height, colour, and physical appearance. If I talk about a vice versa situation, people often judge us as well, isn't it? Have you ever wondered about our response to these judgements? For example, one might start dieting the very day he or she is judged to be fat, but then there may be a person who does not care about what others say about them. In this very realm of life, it is important to see how you perceive or judge yourself. If we almost tend to see ourselves negatively in whichever aspect be it beauty, weight, or any skill that matters this is what is called self doubt. 

What others frame about you is a perspective according to their own criteria or stringent beliefs. Perspectives are quite subjective in nature. Can you control others’ perspectives? You certainly can control your own perspective about yourself. You may like a red lipstick rather than a pink one; you may be fit and at a healthy weight even though others call you fat. In any similar situation, consider it to be an assumption and not a criterion to judge yourself. 

Live life on your own terms and according to your own perspectives, not others, because others are nobody to judge you and others won't care and love you as much as you do to yourself. You know yourself well, and even if you do not, attempt to understand your strengths and weaknesses. I am sure it would be better. The dark clouds of self doubt arise because you assume others' perspective, be confident in yourself most importantly be your best friend you will never be able to judge yourself or label yourself for that matter. 

For that, list down your qualities that you appreciate about yourself. It may be as simple as your voice or a character trait in your personality, such as being hardworking or polite. If I begin to list them, there can be many. The problem, however, is that we often make assumptions about ourselves based on the social world rather than the perspectives in which we live. As a result, we are sometimes unable to take even a simple step like writing one good thing about ourselves without judgement.

Keeping the social circle aside, negative thoughts tend to capture our minds more than positive ones, don't it? The cruel reality is that low marks remain in our minds for months, while good marks fade away after just a few days. It is important to work on our weaknesses, but it is always essential to appreciate our strengths so that judgement exists in a way that allows us to be who we truly are.

Dear readers, it is simple: believe in yourself and be who you are, because you are worth it. Do not let society judge your worth because their perspectives are theirs to handle, and yours is something you can control. Your life would be like a fused light bulb if you only rely on what others believe and live only through a social identity. It would be a glowing, bright one if you feel that you are worth it. Remember, it is worth recognising your own worthiness.